Parenthood Is a Sacred Duty

September 2016

Dear Sister,

This month’s message is called “Parenthood Is a Sacred Duty” and talks about how Heavenly Father established families to help us teach correct principles in a loving atmosphere. President Thomas S. Monson (Prophet) said: “Give your child a compliment and a hug; say, ‘I love you’ more; always express your thanks. Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.

The message also talks about how Heavenly Father’s example as a parent gives us a pattern to follow. Susan W. Tanner (former Young Women General President) said: “Our Father in Heaven exemplifies the pattern we should follow. He loves us, teaches us, is patient with us, and entrusts us with our agency. … Sometimes discipline, which means ‘to teach,’ is confused with criticism. Children–as well as people of all ages–improve behavior from love and encouragement more than from fault-finding.”

The message asks the question “Why is the gospel best taught by the language and example of love?” and this question stood out to me when I read it. I think teaching with love creates trust to where the person learning (upon feeling love) is more willing to listen and learn. They feel safe and secure and don’t put a defensive guard up. They know the person teaching them cares about them and their feelings. They feel respected and like they’re treated as a valuable person.

Teaching with love is most effective and long lasting; it’s also easier said than done. Teaching someone who listens is easy but teaching someone who is difficult is hard. Sometimes our first response to a difficult person is that they make us mad. In a lot of cases we want to be mean to them but if we’re nice and hold our tongue and only say and do nice things to them, after we calm down there is nothing to regret; plus they know we’re their genuine friend.

Sometimes kids and spouses push us to our limit and we become the learner. When we learn from certain situations it gives us knowledge and experience and we grow. That’s why we’re all here – to have experiences that teach us.

I’m thankful to have my immediate family that teaches me. Even if I didn’t have my immediate family I was born into a family and am also a part of God’s family. It’s comforting to know that I belong to a family somewhere…we all do.

I believe that being a parent is a sacred duty because our children and spouses are God’s spirit children. God is trusting me with the responsibility to care for his children, and that trust is sacred. I appreciate His trust in me to care for His children and when I say that reality I want to do my best. I hope this message helps you in some way.

We love you,
Jade and Taleen

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