We’ll Ascend Together

May 2015

Dear Sister,

This month is “pick a talk from General Conference as the visiting teaching message”, so I picked “We’ll Ascend Together” by Linda K. Burton (General Relief Society President). The tag line of her talk says:

As covenant-keeping women and men, we need to lift each other and help each other become the people the Lord would have us become.

She said, “I have been told by many sisters that what they love most is watching the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve as they exit this podium with their eternal companions. And don’t we all enjoy hearing the Brethren tenderly express their love for them?”

Her talk was to honor husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, and uncles who are doing their best. In this day and age much emphasis is on women. I love womanhood and knowing that women are capable, but I don’t diminish men in any way. I love manhood, and, like Sister Burton, think men are vitally important-especially in families.

It seems like men are more and more portrayed as dumb, selfish, or like bumbling idiots; I see this in some TV shows, commercials, and news programs. She talks about how men looking stupid is a trap of the adversary, and she says that the trap isn’t true. Both women and men are capable of great things. Women and men need each other. They complete each other in ways that contribute to their character and growth.

Women are beside men – not behind or in front. They bring softness and many good things that help men. Men are beside women – not behind or in front. Each helps the other to be their best self.

Sister Burton talked about how men are spiritual leaders and teachers in the home. She mentioned how men lift and help us in our complementary roles and how we need to speak kindly to each other.

She said to ask ourselves these questions:

  1. When was the last time I sincerely praised my companion, either alone or in the presence of our children?
  2. When was the last time I thanked, expressed love for, or earnestly pleaded in faith for him or her in prayer?
  3. When was the last time I stopped myself from saying something I knew could be hurtful?
  4. When was the last time I apologized and humbly asked for forgiveness–without adding the words “but if only you had” or “but if only you hadn’t”?
  5. When was the last time I chose to be happy rather than demanding to be “right”?

She said, “I have committed to speak words of kindness more often to my cherished companion and about him, to lift the men in my family and express gratitude for the ways they fulfill their divine and complementary roles.”

We hope for kindness and helping others to be their best selves.

Jade and Taleen

Click here to read Sister Burton’s Talk, “We’ll Ascend Together