For many years I thought my value was determined based on what I did; what I knew; who my friends were; with whom I associated; or my social status, but I learned that my value is set in stone – that I’m valuable just the way I am, just because I’m me. The reality is that my skills, ability, knowledge, or associations could be there one day and gone the next, but who I am will always be there.
It’s incorrect to think I or anyone else is more/less important based on skill, knowledge, ancestry, association, or class. What is correct is that everyone is important no matter who they are, what they know, who their ancestors are, with whom they’re associated, or their socially determined status.
For many years I had low self-esteem and thought others were above me. My thought was they deserve it but I don’t, but that’s not true. The truth is that I deserved it as much as them. It’s weird to say this but having MS gave me good self-esteem because my thoughts improved and because I learned the truth – that I am valuable just because I exist.
I love Maya Angelou’s quote “When you know better you do better” and did better by thinking good things about myself after I learned and dared believe the truth (that I’m divine, beautiful, good, and many more good things). I truly love myself – not in a conceited or narcissistic way – but in that I know and believe many good things about myself. My hope is that others will come to truly love themselves – that they’ll tell themselves good things and dare to believe the truth.