Time for a pep talk:

“I am in control of my feelings, not you, and I refuse to let you dictate how I feel. Unfortunate things happen in this imperfect world. There’s no sense hoping the right thing will be done because it won’t. All I can do is choose happiness even when surrounded by sadness.

I’m in control of me. I can’t control what pops into my mind but when a thought is there that I don’t want I don’t dwell on it. Instead I change my thoughts to something nice and let the bad thing be over there while I’m over here living my life. I don’t pretend sad things don’t exist but don’t let them control me.

Of course things pull at my heart strings because I’m a nice person! But my logic and common sense keep me from drifting into your control. “Is that true?” “Are you trying to control me?” I ask myself and bravely do what’s best. I’m strong. I have courage. I make good choices. I give myself a pep talk and walk away from what I don’t want to have what I do want.”